The five stages of the grieving process described below is a commonly accepted way by which people deal with grief and tragedy, especially when diagnosed with a terminal illness or facing a life changing loss. It was first introduced by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in her 1969 book, On Death and Dying. I propose that it is what many U.S. citizens are going through today in light of the strong socialist movement taking over much of our country.
Denial – “I feel fine.”; “This can’t be happening, not to me.”
Denial is usually only a temporary defense for the individual. This feeling is generally replaced with heightened awareness of situations and individuals that will be left behind after death.
Anger – “Why me? It’s not fair!”; “How can this happen to me?”; “Who is to blame?”
Once in the second stage, the individual recognizes that denial cannot continue. Because of anger, the person is very difficult to care for due to misplaced feelings of rage and envy. Any individual that symbolizes life or energy is subject to projected resentment and jealousy.
Bargaining – “Just let me live to see my children graduate.”; “I’ll do anything for a few more years.”; “I will give my life savings if…”
The third stage involves the hope that the individual can somehow postpone or delay death. Usually, the negotiation for an extended life is made with a higher power in exchange for a reformed lifestyle. Psychologically, the individual is saying, “I understand I will die, but if I could just have more time…”
Depression – “I’m so sad, why bother with anything?”; “I’m going to die… What’s the point?”; “I miss my loved one, why go on?”
During the fourth stage, the dying person begins to understand the certainty of death. Because of this, the individual may become silent, refuse visitors and spend much of the time crying and grieving. This process allows the dying person to disconnect oneself from things of love and affection. It is not recommended to attempt to cheer up an individual who is in this stage. It is an important time for grieving that must be processed.
Acceptance – “It’s going to be okay.”; “I can’t fight it, I may as well prepare for it.”
In this last stage, the individual begins to come to terms with their mortality or that of their loved one.
Now let us compare this to what is going on today:
Denial- Socialism could never happen to America. The American spirit would never allow it. Our Constitution protects us from this.
Anger- An increase in group protests, demonstrating anger with the politicians and political parties, Tea Parties, etc.
Bargaining- Compromising on your values, voting for the lesser of two evils, convincing yourself that socialism isn’t so bad – after all the government will at least take care of me so sacrificing a little freedom is acceptable.
Depression- Basically being defeated, giving up, low voter turnout, apathy and complacency, hopelessness. There is nothing we can do to change the situation.
Acceptance- You recognize you may not win the battle, but at least you are going to keep up the fight. You may have a renewal of your faith. You also recognize you should prepare for the worse and hope for the best. You no longer are immobilized with fear. I consider this the resurrection phase myself. Becoming functional again and the ability to deal with the situation, to prepare one’s self for the future and embrace it. Ready to move on.
One may not go through the stages in order or go through all of the stages, one may go back and forth between a couple of stages, and not all people will ever awaken and realize what is at risk of being lost, but the hope is that the final destination will be enough of us get to the acceptance that we are at war for the soul of our country. Once at the acceptance stage, we can join together in the fight and give it all we have for the sake of our children and grandchildren. We should do no less than our Founding Fathers did some two hundred plus years ago.